Good ol’ Boy George..What’s on your mind today, Oh Great One?
I’m glad you asked. I’ve talked to you about not spreading your personal misery, and now I want to take that a step further. You see, people have problems. Everyone.. You, The President, your favorite celebrity, your favorite athlete.. everyone. No matter how rich or how poor, how smart or how dumb, everyone has problems. That’s life.
That’s depressing.
Yes it is. Most people, they do their best to find things to help them conquer their problems. If they can’t, or it takes a while, then they move on to the next best thing.. forgetting their problems. For some this is books, sports, clubs, beer, whatever. People will try anything to get over what’s eating away at them, and while many of those remedies work, I want to talk about what really helps me.. human interaction.
Sexy time?
No.. I’m just talking about surrounding yourself with positive people. People who have problems, just like you, but they’re not wallowing in it.. moping around, waiting for a piano to fall on their head. Instead, they focus on the positives, they move forward with life and not just enjoy it, but share it.
These are the people the keep me sane. With nothing more than a smile, these people have the power to turn a bad day into a party. I try to be one of these people. I can’t count the number of times when I’ve been at the end of my rope.. in such a mood that one wrong word could potentially send me off the deep end, but then I meet or talk to one of these people and they somehow magically restore my faith in life and humanity.
Angels.
Yes, angels. How awesome would that be, to have someone consider you an angel? It doesn’t require wings, a halo, or even a funky looking toga. All you have to do, is stop whining and start being genuinely concerned for others instead of just yourself! It’s easy, and most importantly, it will come back to you! Treat others with love and they will love you back.
No, but my last post got me thinking about my previous post. Let me ask you, What would make you happy?
Me? Maybe if the Miss America contest was a contest to see who gets to sleep with me.
Hmm.. If that were the case, I doubt the contestants would be quite as attractive. Regardless, today I want to remind you about the simple expression.. Happiness is the path, not the destination.
What does that even mean?
Well, many times we think about what would make us happy. We set these outlandish goals that we could never possibly reach, which keeps us from feeling happy. We forget that happiness is not something we get, it’s merely the way we choose to feel.
So people like to be unhappy?
Some do.. weirdos, but mostly no. People just forget sometimes that life is what you make of it. You can pick up your paycheck Friday and throw a hissy fit about how much more you’d rather be making.. or you can thank the stars that you still have a job in this horrendous economy! If you get in a fender-bender you can whine about the damage to your bumper or you can be glad you were able to walk away in one piece! There’s a bright side to almost everything, you just have to choose to see it.
Sooo there’s a good side to my girl screwing my brother?
Absolutely! Now you kow that your girl is not the one you should be marrying.. and as a bonus you get to sock your brother in the face!
Oooh! I’d love to do that!
You see?! It’s all a matter of perspective. The birds who wonder what life is like under the ocean are missing out on the fact that they rule the skies! They’re oblivious to the feel of the sun on their back and majestic mountains below them! We need to stop wishing we had what we are lacking, and instead appreciate all that we do have.
So I should stop having goals?
No, silly! We need goals. Goals keep us striving to better ourselves, they keep us moving towards a place where we won’t just have more, we’ll also be more. The point is that the road to our goals shouldn’t be one that’s lined with broken glass. The more we wallow in misery and whine about what we lack, the longer it will take for us to move on and realize that life is grand and life is great.
Is it the study that concluded that men like to have sex?
Um.. no.. not quite. They concluded that happiness spreads over social networks. You see, they monitored several social networks and noticed that when people made happy posts, then their friends would be more likely to make happy posts themselves.. which would create a happiness wave, of sorts.
So.. let me get this straight.. Happiness makes people happy?
Exactly!
Ok.. now.. does unhappiness make people unhappy?
You know what? It does. The same study concluded that unhappy posts would also spread.. but luckily at a lesser degree.
So it IS possible for the unhappiness of one of my social network friends to make ME unhappy?
Um.. technically, yes.
Those a-holes!
Yes! So.. the moral of the story is this.. Misery doesn’t love company.. so keep your damned misery to yourself. I am at times unhappy.. you know, life has ups and downs. I try to not focus on the unhappiness and I definitely try to keep it to myself. Sure, I’ll tell a handful of people, but I try not to Twitter, Facebook, or otherwise broadcast my misery to anyone who’ll read it. The reason I do this is quite simple.. I don’t feel the need to burden everyone else with my issue unless they are able to fix it. I mean, seriously, what good does it do anyone to know that you’re unhappy about finding out your ex has a child and it’s not with you and you’re horribly miserable about it? Sure, you gotta vent.. but do that with your close friends, not the whole world! Sadness spreads and happiness spreads.. wouldn’t you want to be responsible for spreading happiness?
It only seems right that I should write this as my first post of November, and just weeks before Jim Carrey’s new flick, Yes Man.
So.. wut’s this all about? Paying for sex or something?
No. It’s about the word, that word. You see, I’ve been in several great relationships. Relationships that should have been perfect, but they weren’t. Something was wrong with them, and after much thought and analysis, the problem became so transparent that I can’t help but feel like a moron for not seeing it sooner.
Are we talking about your small penis? I can’t blame you for not seeing it earlier..
No! I’m still talking about ‘No’!
My brain hurts ..but go on.
You see, as I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I live in a world of fear. I find myself constantly thinking about things that can go wrong. This fear causes me to put off doing certain things in order to avoid feeling the fear. For instance, do I want to go to a family gathering with my significant other? No.
Why not?
Well, they think highly of me, so when I’m around them I have to walk on pins and needles so that my true personality doesn’t surface and I run the chance of offending someone, or saying/doing something so utterly stupid that I end up losing their respect and admiration.
Geez, that’s paranoid.
Yes indeed, and that’s just ONE situation! There’s plenty more.. wanna go skiing? No.. I might get hurt. Wanna learn to ride a horse? No.. I might look like a dork or get hurt.
I get the point.. you’re a chicken-shit! Move on.
Oh, right. Well.. I also noticed, however, that No’s can come back to bite us in the rear. Every time we utter those tiny, seemingly-insignificant letters, our partner is secretly stashing them in their own No-Vault. You decide to make a request and presto, there’s a ‘No’ fired in your face.. how’s that for ya?
When we’re children, one of the first words we learn is ‘No’. It serves a great purpose, we’re young and ignorant of the dangers all around us, so our loved ones use that to keep us from hurting ourselves or otherwise doing something we shouldn’t. That being, it’s no surprise that we don’t like hearing that word. Our feelings get hurt and, if heard enough, we distance ourselves from the source of that word.
No kidding? So should we just ignore Nancy Reagan and “Just say Yes!”?
um.. no. Something needs to happen, but I’m not recommending the drastic measures taken by Jim Carrey in his flick, but rather a careful, conscious evaluation of the reasons why we’re driven to say ‘No’. Before you fire that word off like it’s your name, stop and pretend you’re on the receiving end of it. We must choose our battles carefully in a relationship, and sometimes braving a situation simply to put a smile on your partner’s face will yield a lot more benefit for the two of you, as opposed to giving them fodder by adding another ‘No’ to the No-Vault.
That’s cool. So from now on you’ll think twice before saying ‘No’?
